He's Just Not That Into You

Oprah said “this book should be on every single woman’s nightstand”. People all over are raving about this book which supposedly the honest viewpoint of a guy towards relationship and specially dedicated to successful single women who’s wasting their ‘pretty’ being in a ‘shitty’ relationship. I didn’t even intend to purchase the book at first since I consider it to be bloody expensive (RM42.90 for 200 pages of size-14-font book). Besides it was co-written by two Americans? Americans for crying out loud! They are psychotic bunch of people………..hmmm can I actually trust their word??? Arghh…what the heck, I checked my purse, saw the RM50 note and I headed straight to the cashier.

I finished the book within a few hours (shit! should have just stand in kino to finish the book and get a copy of Dan Brown’s instead) and it got me thinking. This guy is right, man is not complicated and there is no such thing as mixed messages. It’s the women who created all the excuses…”Oh he’s too busy he couldn’t call” or “Maybe he lost my phone number, I think I should give him a buzz just to make sure….” or “maybe he feel intimidated by me” yada…yada…yada. All sounds familiar right? It sure does to me………..cause I use it all the time, sometimes just to keep my hopes high. Greg was right, if a guy really interested in you, it doesn’t matter if he is the most important person in the world, he will definitely find time to call you to say that he will talk to you once he’s free. If he doesn’t….then, he’s just NOT that into you. If a guy said they will call you and never did, don’t create excuses for him, he’s just NOT that into you! Who would forget to call a person they dig so much????? And if he forgot to call you, clearly you are not in his mind. I can’t believe I was so bloody blind all this while. So how do you know if a guy is just not that into you? Here are a few tips from Greg:

1. He’s just NOT that into you if he’s not asking you out
2. He’s just NOT that into you if he’s not calling you
3. He’s just NOT that into you if he’s not dating you
4. He’s just NOT that into you if he disappeared on you

I noted after reading the book that Greg is quite a conservative guy, he believed that a man should do all the hardwork in chasing the woman of their dreams. But I don’t believe in waiting, if I like a guy I will ask him out. I’m lacking in my supply of patient. I wouldn’t wait for a gazillion years before he decided to ask me out for coffee. So what’s wrong in asking a guy out??? Besides, we are not living in 1920s it’s already 2005. It’s the way it is nowadays. But Greg beg to differ. He made a non-scientific poll on males in serious relationship and found out that none of them started with the women asking them out first. And come to think of it, he might be right. I notice that all my friends in a serious relationship, all started with the guy asking them out, not vice versa. All this while I was the one who made the first move, I ask a guy out and even pay the bill. No wonder none of the guys ask me out on a second date.

From now on, I will use Greg’s tips in decoding male behavior. Guys all over the world are the same, doesn’t matter what color or race you are. It’s imprinted in the bloody Y chromosome which exist in the male species of the homospiens. From now on I will put on my feelers and pick up the signal once it’s transmitted. If he’s not asking me out, or if he couldn’t find a lousy 2 minutes in his insanely super-busy life to give me a buzz, then I shall pack my bag and hit the see-you-later highway, cause I won’t waste my time with a guy who is just NOT that into moir….